An outstanding teacher of modern times, author of many books, the founder of La Tracha School, Professor Franco Nembrini was invited to talk.

I want to understand and understand .. what we do specifically with children (?) What school we build (?) How to restore the lost trust of children (?), How to restore and build a true relationship (?), What is Freedom and how to understand where its boundary (? ) and in the end, what is upbringing (?)

I really wanted to get some magic recipe for parenting so that it could be used immediately. Although I have long known that such a recipe does not exist in nature.

 

Talked a long time .. To summarize in a short summary then came that there should be at least three components for Parenting:

1. Parents (family) should demonstrate a desire for life and the beauty of life (that the child wanted to live! That the child wanted to be like a father or mother!). Usually, when the family is constantly moaning about how things are wrong and what everyone is not, and everyone around is guilty, and the parents are in conflict, then such circumstances do not form a child's confidence in the beauty of life and do not make him attractive, and it is unlikely. to make your baby look like a mom or dad).

2. Parents must love the child unconditionally and trust the child unconditionally. There should be no "if". We love you and everything ... not in this design if you ... in the case of "if you" is not love, but imitation ... and manipulation. The same with confidence .. trust and all .. even when the child says something that is untrue, then at this time we realize for ourselves that she is just fantasizing .. and it does not violate our trust.

3. Parents should be respected in the child's life. If parents (often just so) lose authority, then there must be someone who can pick up and lead (baptized / baptized, friend, teacher .. anyone intelligent ..).

 

Usually, when any conversation about pedagogy begins, the basic hypothesis "a child should ..." is in it. But look friends, all three points concern us, adults. And only when we fulfil these points, we have the potential to expect something from children.

 

And to start a new page of your own life in the relationship with the child - it is possible only with the sincere forgiveness of the child .. and the request of forgiveness of the child us ..

 

The conversation has started .. and we hope to continue .. for questions and questions ..

 

The tour of the school was conducted, Franco said that he had never seen such a beautiful school in his life! To hear such an assessment from the Italian-Bergamasque is gratifying, because these people are beautiful!

 

Thank you to Franco Nembrin and Alexander Filonenko for talking, thank you Katerina DelAsta-Zakharova for the perfect translation! Thank you to the parents and teachers who came and participated!

 

Well, we started, and we continue.