Bullying

Bullying in the learning environment (harassment), ie the actions of participants in the educational process, which consist of psychological, physical, economic, sexual violence, including the use of electronic communications committed against a minor or such person in relation to other participants in the educational process , as a result of which the mental or physical health of the victim could or has been harmed.

Physical bullying - pushing, footsteps, touching, fights, kicks, slaps, unwanted touches, "scanning" of the body, infliction of bodily harm, etc.

Economic bullying - damage, seizure or destruction of clothing and other personal belongings, extortion, etc.

Psychological bullying - humiliating looks, gestures, abusive body movements, facial expressions, spreading insulting rumors, isolation, ignoring, threats, jokes, manipulation, blackmail and more.

Sexual bullying - humiliating looks, gestures, abusive body movements, nicknames and images of a sexual nature, shooting in locker rooms, spreading insulting rumors, threats of a sexual nature, jokes and more.

Cyberbullying - humiliation with the help of mobile phones, the Internet, other electronic devices (sending ambiguous photos, calling names by phone, filming fights or other humiliations and posting videos on the Internet, harassment through social networks).

 

Typical signs of bullying are:

• systematic (repetitive) action;
• the presence of the parties - the abuser (buller), the victim (victim of bullying), observers (if any);
• actions or omissions of the offender, which result in mental and / or physical harm, humiliation, fear, anxiety, subordination of the victim to the interests of the offender, and / or causing social isolation of the victim.

Typical features of students who tend to become bullies (according to Norwegian psychologist D. Olveus):

• feel a strong need to dominate and subjugate other students, pursuing their own goals;
• impulsive; often bold and aggressive towards adults (especially parents and teachers);
• do not show compassion for their victims;
• usually physically stronger than others.

 

Typical features of victims (victims of bullying):

• timid, vulnerable, closed, shy; often anxious, insecure, have low self-esteem; prone to depression;
• often have no close friend or close friend and communicate more successfully with adults than with peers;
• may be physically weaker than their peers.

Typical features of observers:

• guilt;
• feeling powerless;
• reluctance / misunderstanding of one's role. These traits are both a cause and a consequence of bullying.

Who can be a victim of bullying:

• children who cannot defend themselves are physically weaker than their peers; - insecure children, closed, silent;
• children who avoid certain places at school (for example, sitting in class during a break);
• children, who often do not have any close friends, communicate better with adults than with peers;
• children who are different from others in anything.

Anyone can be / become an aggressor and a victim, not even according to the list.

Who can be an aggressor:

• they are usually physically stronger than others;
• are distinguished by appearance, manner of behavior, clothing;
• they are often bold and aggressive towards children and adults;
• have a fairly large circle of friends or like-minded people, etc.

 

Who can be observers:

• children from the circle of the offender or the offender; - classmates;
• casual students;
• everyone who sees the bullying situation.

 

Consequences of bullying
 

Victim or victim (bully)

• Closedness
• Fear
• Insomnia
• Low self-esteem
• Aggression
• Deteriorating health
• Anxiety
• Dependencies
• Getting under the influence
• Solitude
• Suicidal ideation and other negative consequences
   

 Offender or offender (Buler)

• Aggressive behavior
• Manifestations of violence
• Committing an offense
• Rejection by friends, classmates
• Indifference to the feelings of others
• Inability to communicate calmly
• Perceived by others as an aggressor
• Constant being in conflict
• Misunderstandings with parents / teachers
• Deterioration of health and other negative consequences
   

Recommendations for students on how to resist bullying
 

 It seems to be happening to me. What should I do?

- Talk to an adult you trust. These can be parents, a teacher or sports coach, a school psychologist, a mediator, an older sibling, or other relatives. You must not stand alone.

- If you find it difficult to talk, write about what is happening and send it to an adult whom you trust by e-mail or messenger.

- You can ask parents to talk to the parents of the offender or the offender. This often helps to solve the problem.

- Act boldly, keep your head high, look the offender in the eye, even if you feel insecure. Your body language should have a different message.

- Ignore ridicule and stay away from offenders. Make them think that you don't care. Often, ridicule ends when the aggressors do not receive attention or reaction.

- Control your emotions. It is normal to feel angry and upset, but it gives more power to the offender. It helps many to count to ten, breathe deeply, or write angry words on paper. In addition, these skills will be useful throughout life.

- Try to be among people, especially during breaks and during lunch. Avoid secluded "corners" and places where bullying usually takes place.

- Stay close to friends who can protect you. Think about who you can count on and who can count on you in a similar situation.

- If you are photographed or ridiculed in locker rooms, do not go there with the offenders.

- If the situation leads to physical violence, theft or damage to property, contact the police.

- Do not use force or bullying in response. This will only worsen the situation and may lead to more serious consequences.

- If you see that someone else is suffering from bullying, do not be silent. Offer help and call adults.

What if my friend does?

- If it is done by a friend or girlfriend (friends), even under the guise of jokes, abandon this relationship. They assert themselves at your expense. It may seem like you're all alone, but you'll soon have a new circle of friends.

And if it happens on the Internet?

- Unpleasant messages, comments, links to your profile in ridiculous posts - this is a kind of bullying (cyberbullying). Block people who insult you online or on your mobile phone. The blocking function is available in e-mail, all social networks, SMS and mobile calls. You can also complain about the page of the offender or the offender of the administration of the social network. If you do not know how to do this, ask your elders.

- Do not send anyone intimate images and messages for which you may feel ashamed. Even if it's your boyfriend / girlfriend you trust. Remember, everything you do on the Internet stays in cyberspace, even when we delete information. This can be a source of cyberbullying.

How to improve well-being and increase confidence?

"Remember, it's not your fault." You should not be ashamed of what is happening. No one deserves to be tortured, and nothing justifies bullying.

- According to international organizations, 67% of children in Ukraine face bullying. Many famous and successful people suffered from this as children. If you know adults who have been bullied, be sure to talk to them.

- Join groups that offer interesting activities and allow you to express yourself. This can be a tourist club, a newspaper, a school parliament, an ensemble, etc. Changing activities and like-minded people will improve their well-being and increase their self-esteem.

- Get creative - dance, sing, draw, take photos, do crafts - do everything that brings you pleasure and makes you happier / happier. 63 Supplements to classes

- Exercise. This increases the tone and energy level. So, you will definitely feel better both physically and morally.

- Find time to rest and get enough sleep. Our body, brain and psyche need relaxation. This will help you feel calmer and more confident.

- Be yourself! Don't let the thoughts of one person or group of people depress your personality. Don't adjust and show yourself.

 To interact with the offender, you can ask the following questions:

1. "I don't understand why you said this (did / did, etc.)?" If the abuser is asked this question calmly, he / she may become confused and stop his or her attacks. As a rule, the abuser will not be able to clearly answer why he / she is doing this.

2. "Why did you define it?" If, for example, a child is called a "fool", then ask the question: "Why did you identify that I do not know how to do this?"

3. "What's stopping you?" For example, "What prevents you from leaving and doing your own thing?", "What prevents you from studying as well as I do?", "What prevents you from asking me for help instead of being jealous?" etc.

 How to recognize a child who has become a victim of bullying?

 The child is unlikely to tell you that she is being bullied. Therefore, look closely at her behavior and possible external signs of bullying:

• offensive or humiliating videos on social networks (cyberbullying)
• broken toys and personal belongings
• dirty or torn clothes
• torn notebooks and textbooks
• bubble gum in the hair
• chalk-contaminated clothing
• other signs of physical abuse.

 

Who to contact in a bullying situation?
 

• to the police on the number "102"
• adults you trust (these can be parents, a teacher or a sports coach, a mediator, an older sibling, other relatives)
• to a psychologist, social educator or class teacher
• to the Center for Social Services for Families of Children and Youth
• to the district police officer
• to the school police officer
• to the service for children
• to juvenile prevention workers
• to employees of the medical institution
• to public organizations working in the field of protection of the rights and interests of children
   

With any questions about bullying and more, you can contact the National Children's Hotline: 0 800 500 225 (free from landlines) or 116 111 (free from mobile), here you can confidently tell about your situation.

 

Bullying Commission
 

1. Based on the results of consideration of the Application, the director of the lyceum shall issue a decision on conducting an investigation of cases of bullying (harassment) with the determination of authorized persons.

2. For the purpose of investigating cases of bullying (harassment), authorized persons have the right to request written explanations and materials from the parties.

3. In order to make a decision based on the results of the investigation, the director of the lyceum shall establish a commission to consider cases of bullying (hereinafter referred to as the Commission) and convene meetings.

4. The commission is created by the order of the director of lyceum.

5. The commission may include pedagogical workers (including a psychologist, a social pedagogue), parents of the victim and the bully, the school administration.

6. The Commission in its activities is guided by the legislation of Ukraine and other regulations.

7. If the Commission has determined that it was bullying and not a one-off conflict or quarrel, ie the relevant actions are systematic, the lyceum director is obliged to notify the authorized bodies of the National Police (juvenile police) and the children's service.

8. If the Commission does not qualify the case as bullying (harassment), and the victim does not agree, he may immediately apply to the National Police of Ukraine with a statement, which the director of the lyceum is obliged to notify the victim.

9. Decisions of the Commission are made by the majority of its members and are registered in a separate journal, kept in paper form with the original signatures of all members of the Commission.

10. The victim or his / her representative may immediately apply to the authorized bodies of the National Police of Ukraine (juvenile police) and the children's service with a report of cases of bullying (harassment).

11. Parents are obliged to follow the decisions and recommendations of the Commission.

 

Procedure for submitting and reviewing (with confidentiality) applications for bullying (harassment)
 

1. All students, teachers of the institution, parents and other participants in the educational process must notify the director of the educational institution of cases of bullying (harassment), participants or witnesses of which they became, or suspect of its commission in relation to other persons by outsiders. signs, or about which received reliable information from others.

2. A statement (confidentiality is guaranteed) about the case of bowling (harassment) is written in the name of the director of the institution.

3. Applications received by e-mail from the gymnasium are received by the secretary-printer, who is obliged to immediately notify the head of the institution and the responsible person.

4. The director of the institution issues an order to conduct an investigation and establish a commission to consider the case of bullying (harassment), convenes its meeting.

5. The composition of such a commission includes pedagogical workers (including a psychologist, a social pedagogue), parents of the victim and bullies, the head of the educational institution and other interested persons.

6. Decisions of the commission are registered in a separate journal, stored in paper form with original signatures of all members of the commission.

 

Deadlines for submission and consideration of Applications
 

1. Applicants are obliged to immediately notify the head of the institution of cases of bullying (harassment), as well as to submit an Application.

2. The decision to establish the Commission and conduct an investigation shall be issued within 1 working day from the date of submission of the Application.

3. Appointment of a meeting of the Commission and investigation of bullying cases by authorized persons shall be carried out within 3 working days from the date of issuance of the decision to conduct an investigation.

4. The director of the lyceum is obliged to inform the authorized bodies of the National Police (juvenile police) and the service for children about the case of bullying (harassment) qualified by the Commission within one day.